It’s funny really how as women we can manage to slip in the word equality into any debate we are having, with men especially,to win the argument of course, and it works. We are eager to let this men know we are no longer in the ancient times. We want independence, to be regarded as individuals who are as capable as the men. Equals is the term used. What a man can do a woman can do better. We are working now, towards making our economy better, striving to pay bills. All this are true yes, but why then all the dependence??
Kempinsky today….. Sarova Stanley tomorrow…. Vacay in Dubai…. Shopping in….. Traveling and touring the world is the order of your Instagram. I mean the location is on that app for a reason, and you are utilizing it. Of course I am jealous, who doesn’t want to travel and live the good life, I’d be lying if I said otherwise. But why all the dependence on a man. Sponsor this….. Bae that….I mean we all want to be spoilt, pampered, we are female after all, we want a man who can take care of us. Why does it have to be a man paying the bill all the time?! Yet we claim to be equal. Then they’ll say well my man is rich, he wants to take care of me, well good for you…. But as a woman can you proudly treat yourself to lunch at one of these fancy restaurants and hotels that you frequent, treat yourself for a vacay, a shopping treat In Paris, girls night out, buy yourself a pair of shoes you’ve been eyeing, with your own money. Can you? Well why not….?
We are equal after all, if a man can work hard and earn the good lifestyle so can we. Success is beautiful, and at this day and age, it is no longer dependent on how learned one is, instead it is about passion. Passion is drive, to improve one’s current state of living, to make their talent their business, to start up a project, a company…. Hence one knows the struggles they passed through, the sleepless nights, the failures, the number of times they lost hope, woman or man they know how great it feels to spend money they earned themselves. Wake up woman!!!!
Why all the dependency on these men? Why are you lazy? Why do want the easy way? Wake up!!!
Single mothers are all over the world striving to provide for their children, stop playing victim,wake up woman !!!
The next time you challenge anyone about the equality between men and women, make sure you are not all talk. Be the woman who is not after his money because you are busy making your own. Be the woman who will not sell herself short simply because he rich. Be the woman who can stare at their reflection with pride. Surprise him, pay the bill once, buy him the gift his been wanting for a while, who said ‘him’ must be a guy you are dating, it could as well be a friend. If you are doing all these already, good for you, you are awake already, help awaken another woman… Let them hate if they want to, talk smack if they need to, but hold your head high knowing you’ve worked hard for what you have… You can support your lifestyle, and can brag about if you want to….
Well if someone asks you out, but all means say yes if you are interested, but have enough money to transport yourself to and fro from the venue, whether matatu, cab, car hire whatever you damn well please, and enough to pay at least for your meal. He may be a gentleman, he may pick you up and drop you home, or you may go back to his it’s your choice….. But what if he does not, what if he turns out to be an asshole with no respect, then what?? Pay for your meal, stand up, and transport yourself where you want to go. With your money, saves you the pain of having to endure him.
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop and what you reinforce, I read this somewhere, can’t remember where though. What am I saying, have your own… Always have your own, hustle, money. Hold your head high, walk away when the situation no longer serves your interest. Say no, if you are against the situation. Voice out your concerns, your opinions, they are very important. WAKE up woman!!! Stand up and be a queen, treat yourself as such, stop being dependent, support yourself, attract a king. After all, we are equal…. In the absence of the man, you shouldn’t break and fall, we both have backbones, use yours woman WAKE up!!!!!
So stop sleeping on potential, you can be a role model too for all the right reasons. All the men want you, all women want to be you, so it’s said. Have ambition, aspire to be better than you were yesterday, help your parents, live your life, stay positive and always stay thankful. Do you….. For you. Stop depending on a married man somewhere, somebody’s grandfather, your broke boyfriend whose trying to better himself as well. Do you….. Sleep proud of you accomplishments, big or small WAKE UP WOMAN!!!
. . . .my opinion!!!